Say these words out loud; Resilient, pliable, able to bounce back, adaptable, flexible, the ability to recover. We all mess up, but if you will allow yourself to BE these things- then you’ll NEVER lose! Something to chew on huh? I mean, what you really have to understand about life- and this is ANYONE, no matter who you are, where you came from, or what happened to you… you have to understand that the only time you fail, is when you fail to get back up. We ALL fall- or as the Bible puts it, all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God. So we all have regret about one thing or another, but you have to know that getting back up entitles you to make a fresh start. Pick up from where you left off so to speak. Staying on the ground or crying that the sky is falling, or being negative that “nothing ever works for you” is failure. Failure to see the
obstacle for what it is…an obstacle.
I remember a family member of mine wanted to pull her child out of a certain teacher’s class because the teacher was too hard and she was known as an impossible teacher to deal with. Her child was getting disciplined in a way that she never had before and quite frankly in my opinion, she was being challenged in a good way. But the first thing her mother wanted to do
when the child complained was pull her out of the class. I jumped into the conversation that she was having with my mother at this point and urged her NOT to do that. Pulling her child out because of rumors or minor complaints teaches them that as soon as something is challenging or too hard then it’s okay to quit or pull out. And you wonder why we become weak adults who
can’t take a punch. We cry when our boss crosses us and we want to quit our jobs or we end up falling out with a friend because the relationship is not going our way.
The advice I gave her was to make her child dig her heels in and do the tasks that were given her so that she could “learn” how to deal with seemingly challenging and hard to get along with people at an early age and still succeed. Not every teacher is going to be easy, not every boss is going to recognize your contributions. THIS quite honestly would be a great test for her to develop a thick skin in a way that could only mature her.
Let’s look at the benefits of this potential lesson; she could begin to pray for this teacher
and believe God to see her through. This is also a great way for her to begin to use her faith and witness a move of God on her behalf while perhaps seeing how God can make a difficult situation manageable. Sometimes God doesn’t deliver us FROM a situation, He delivers us THROUGH a situation. Same stance we should take with our children. Instead of taking them OUT of a difficult situation, support them THROUGH a difficult situation. You’ll see
some amazing fruit begin to form in their lives; they’ll develop character and will begin to trust God instead of always depending on YOU to “save them.” You can’t always be there for them- but God will.
Let’s help our children be resilient. Let us also take this advice for ourselves. I encourage you to TRY to take on new challenges that you perhaps would not have taken on in the past. Ask God to help you to recover when you’ve fumbled, because your children, like you- WILL fumble. It’s okay, rub some dirt on it and get back into the game! Remember, you’ve got one up on the world. God is on YOUR side!
Be inspired to create the adult in your children that you’d like to work with, partner with, be friends with, be employed by, and see how that changes your outlook and your
Behavior when it comes to supporting them.
Things to consider:
I’m not asking you to allow your child to have one challenge after another that’s enough to discourage even YOU. But make sure that if one challenge does come along that you don’t run and deliver them out of it so quickly. Let them take a hit or two but TEACH them through it, support them in it, encourage them and then help them to see the lesson behind it. They will become stronger emotionally and begin to want to make their own decisions about things as you guide them. Let’s all BE RESILIENT, we can bounce back after a set back and STILL WIN!
obstacle for what it is…an obstacle.
I remember a family member of mine wanted to pull her child out of a certain teacher’s class because the teacher was too hard and she was known as an impossible teacher to deal with. Her child was getting disciplined in a way that she never had before and quite frankly in my opinion, she was being challenged in a good way. But the first thing her mother wanted to do
when the child complained was pull her out of the class. I jumped into the conversation that she was having with my mother at this point and urged her NOT to do that. Pulling her child out because of rumors or minor complaints teaches them that as soon as something is challenging or too hard then it’s okay to quit or pull out. And you wonder why we become weak adults who
can’t take a punch. We cry when our boss crosses us and we want to quit our jobs or we end up falling out with a friend because the relationship is not going our way.
The advice I gave her was to make her child dig her heels in and do the tasks that were given her so that she could “learn” how to deal with seemingly challenging and hard to get along with people at an early age and still succeed. Not every teacher is going to be easy, not every boss is going to recognize your contributions. THIS quite honestly would be a great test for her to develop a thick skin in a way that could only mature her.
Let’s look at the benefits of this potential lesson; she could begin to pray for this teacher
and believe God to see her through. This is also a great way for her to begin to use her faith and witness a move of God on her behalf while perhaps seeing how God can make a difficult situation manageable. Sometimes God doesn’t deliver us FROM a situation, He delivers us THROUGH a situation. Same stance we should take with our children. Instead of taking them OUT of a difficult situation, support them THROUGH a difficult situation. You’ll see
some amazing fruit begin to form in their lives; they’ll develop character and will begin to trust God instead of always depending on YOU to “save them.” You can’t always be there for them- but God will.
Let’s help our children be resilient. Let us also take this advice for ourselves. I encourage you to TRY to take on new challenges that you perhaps would not have taken on in the past. Ask God to help you to recover when you’ve fumbled, because your children, like you- WILL fumble. It’s okay, rub some dirt on it and get back into the game! Remember, you’ve got one up on the world. God is on YOUR side!
Be inspired to create the adult in your children that you’d like to work with, partner with, be friends with, be employed by, and see how that changes your outlook and your
Behavior when it comes to supporting them.
Things to consider:
I’m not asking you to allow your child to have one challenge after another that’s enough to discourage even YOU. But make sure that if one challenge does come along that you don’t run and deliver them out of it so quickly. Let them take a hit or two but TEACH them through it, support them in it, encourage them and then help them to see the lesson behind it. They will become stronger emotionally and begin to want to make their own decisions about things as you guide them. Let’s all BE RESILIENT, we can bounce back after a set back and STILL WIN!
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