How many times have you had a dream in your heart and you ended up running with something LESS than the best? How many times have you allowed others to take your faith and you ended up settling in more areas of your life than you care to admit? Well- let's talk about that... sometimes it's not too late! And when I make that last statement- does that mean that sometimes it IS too late? Well, don’t skip this blog because you may not agree- hear me out!
I hear from more married people than I can count about the following statement; “Be Sloooooow to get married, wait for as long as you can!!” It often has a warning tone to it- vs. a cautious tone and I often surmise that married
people are generally speaking, NOT Happy! Remember- I’m a single girl, I’m jus sayin; doesn’t it sound that way to you? It’s kinda sad. I mean- did they settle for something less than what they originally wanted? I hope it’s not true especially since I’m waiting on the Lord to hook me up! So, for all of you single people out there, it’s time for you to make a list if you haven’t already. Why a list? Studies show- people who “write down” their goals, wishes,
etc. have a 50% better chance of obtaining those goals and wishes vs. someone who just keeps them in their head. Interesting huh? Also when you write things down I think it gives you a clearer picture of what’s in front of you. It’s like proofreading out loud, vs. to yourself - the mistakes JUMP OUT when you hear yourself read it aloud.
First and foremost you must keep in mind who YOU are. If you don’t know who you are- you can’t begin to make a list. Not only will your list be unrealistic, if you don’t know who you are neither will the person you capture
from that list. They’ll end up being everything you’re not- and it won’t last- and need I go any further? You’ll end up being one of those married people telling single people to WAIT with a major warning tone in your voice. Or – the goals that you’ve captured for yourself might end up being extremely unrealistic when you don’t consider the little fact that you hate working out, after your goal has you losing 50lbs in six months. If you are a Christian-then your list of wishes needs to be about someone who is like-minded. Yes? Can you imagine marrying a man who refuses to go to church and Sunday mornings are spent with loud arguments and frustration between you, him, and the children? Seriously- do not be unequally yoked. You have to realize that you shouldn’t be asking
anything of someone that you yourself aren’t trying to obtain or have already obtained. Let’s face it- opposites attract, but they typically don’t stay together…you may want someone to balance you out- but you don’t want someone who’s going to annoy you! So be conservative with your wish list. Then pray over it, ask God to help you – because He knows better than you what’s good for you- then believe that you’ll get what you asked for and more. You see- my Pastor’s wife said once, if you have a list of 20 things and you get 17 of those- you
have to be willing to say about those other 3 things… “I can live with that”. Stop settling for less than God’s best. If you want something believe God for it and wait…God is faithful to His word, we’re the ones who stop
trusting and begin to take the cheap version of what we asked for.
For Married Couples: If you didn’t make a list before you said “I Do” but you have some demands now and you want what you want- then sit down with your mate and talk about it. See if the two of you can get on
the same page and believe God together!
And Singles: Stop settling in your dating life…practicing settling now will encourage you to
settle later. Make your list and stick to it. Keep it real, keep it realistic, and keep it simple!
Loving you with God’s Love,
Angela Hunter
I hear from more married people than I can count about the following statement; “Be Sloooooow to get married, wait for as long as you can!!” It often has a warning tone to it- vs. a cautious tone and I often surmise that married
people are generally speaking, NOT Happy! Remember- I’m a single girl, I’m jus sayin; doesn’t it sound that way to you? It’s kinda sad. I mean- did they settle for something less than what they originally wanted? I hope it’s not true especially since I’m waiting on the Lord to hook me up! So, for all of you single people out there, it’s time for you to make a list if you haven’t already. Why a list? Studies show- people who “write down” their goals, wishes,
etc. have a 50% better chance of obtaining those goals and wishes vs. someone who just keeps them in their head. Interesting huh? Also when you write things down I think it gives you a clearer picture of what’s in front of you. It’s like proofreading out loud, vs. to yourself - the mistakes JUMP OUT when you hear yourself read it aloud.
First and foremost you must keep in mind who YOU are. If you don’t know who you are- you can’t begin to make a list. Not only will your list be unrealistic, if you don’t know who you are neither will the person you capture
from that list. They’ll end up being everything you’re not- and it won’t last- and need I go any further? You’ll end up being one of those married people telling single people to WAIT with a major warning tone in your voice. Or – the goals that you’ve captured for yourself might end up being extremely unrealistic when you don’t consider the little fact that you hate working out, after your goal has you losing 50lbs in six months. If you are a Christian-then your list of wishes needs to be about someone who is like-minded. Yes? Can you imagine marrying a man who refuses to go to church and Sunday mornings are spent with loud arguments and frustration between you, him, and the children? Seriously- do not be unequally yoked. You have to realize that you shouldn’t be asking
anything of someone that you yourself aren’t trying to obtain or have already obtained. Let’s face it- opposites attract, but they typically don’t stay together…you may want someone to balance you out- but you don’t want someone who’s going to annoy you! So be conservative with your wish list. Then pray over it, ask God to help you – because He knows better than you what’s good for you- then believe that you’ll get what you asked for and more. You see- my Pastor’s wife said once, if you have a list of 20 things and you get 17 of those- you
have to be willing to say about those other 3 things… “I can live with that”. Stop settling for less than God’s best. If you want something believe God for it and wait…God is faithful to His word, we’re the ones who stop
trusting and begin to take the cheap version of what we asked for.
For Married Couples: If you didn’t make a list before you said “I Do” but you have some demands now and you want what you want- then sit down with your mate and talk about it. See if the two of you can get on
the same page and believe God together!
And Singles: Stop settling in your dating life…practicing settling now will encourage you to
settle later. Make your list and stick to it. Keep it real, keep it realistic, and keep it simple!
Loving you with God’s Love,
Angela Hunter
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